On the cusp of breaking out of the 300s, Annette has found herself teetering on the edge of the plateau she has been sitting on since Thanksgiving. This past month, she has been making some important emotional breakthroughs that could just help her fall off of the edge and land as a version of herself she can hardly recognize (a good version).
Ready to stop seeing a 3 on the scale (and currently at 306), there are a lot of emotional and psychological factors that are changing for Annette. Losing weight is allowing her to see things in herself that others have seen all along. In my first post about her, I mentioned that she was smart, funny, and charismatic. I am happy to report that she still is, but even happier to say that she is finally realizing it for herself!
“People are reaching out to me, and I find myself reaching back, where as before I would wonder why they would want to be friends with me.”
In forming these new relationships, Annette is also starting to recognize the fragility that lies in all of us, allowing her to feel connected to people she never considered connecting with.
“You don’t have to be fat to be insecure. Everyone has something that can tear them down or that they don’t like or want to change.” Be it the size of your nose, the shape of your hips, or simply your hair color; every person has some level of insecurity. It is what makes us human. Annette is realizing that insecurites don’t have to detemine your value or self-worth, and this is allowing her to give herself more of both.
“Every 30 pounds, I go through an adjustment phase. My center of gravity has changed, I’m moving a little bit different, but there are emotional changes as well.” With each phase of this journey, Annette isn’t necessarily becoming a new person, but uncovering and exposing who she has always been. More importantly, she is learning that, underneath it all, we are a lot more alike than anyone may think.
One of the most important rules in life is, “learn to love yourself”. There will always be days when you don’t feel comfortable in your own skin, you can’t seem to say the right thing, and you just wish you could be someone else. Stop and recognize that you are the most beautiful YOU there is. You have to love yourself before anyone else ever can. Loving yourself opens up your world to positive things and endless possibilities. If you do nothing else on Valentine’s Day, take a moment to recognize the greatness that is you. And we will wait and see what lies ahead for Annette once she smashes through her 300 pound barrier. Hopefully her emotions and her image will catch up to reflect to her what a wonderful, beautiful person she is.